Buying a home ~ It is common to try suits, dresses, trousers or shoes before buying them. People instinctively know that they need to try on clothes to make sure they are right, feel comfortable and attractive to them. How about the house? This is probably the most expensive purchase you have ever made. Isn’t it more important to “try” a house before you buy it?
I once helped a young single woman named Wendy to find and buy her first home. He worked for Geico, rose very well in the company and wanted his own home and a tax-free home ownership agreement. He asked for my advice about choosing, and we had a conversation where I mentioned many things I said here. We list what is important to him. Then we go shopping. We saw many houses. After we left each of us, we talked about how to measure up to Wendy’s list.
One of the houses we saw belonged to a young woman who later became my daughter-in-law. It’s brick, all on one level, has a fireplace in the living room, and has a patio door from the main bedroom and dining room to a large deck with a hot tub. It is beautifully decorated in a kind of “pared Victorian” style. There are brass beds, some wicker, lots of healthy home plants, and some real old Victorian furniture, family furniture. A silver framed family photo clustered on the piano.
After we got out of the house, Wendy started down two steps into the car and then froze in place. He has the strangest expression on his face. I asked what was wrong, and he began to look shy and confessed, “The house is very beautiful and very beautifully decorated, I just enjoy seeing it and not thinking about how I live in it. I just want it.”
We go back inside. Wendy still admired what she had done with the house, but decided it wasn’t right for her.
Knowing what’s important to you can save expensive mistakes. The process of “trying” a home helps you evaluate what’s important. I think you will find a commensurate business.